We all know at least one person who is constantly negative! The one who isn’t the most enjoyable person to be around! Such people are pessmistic, anxious, distrustful and very difficult to deal with, aren’t they? It feels like it takes a lot of energy to be around them as it its amazingly draining. As a matter of fact, there are a few different types of draining energy, all of which stem from negativity.
Let`s face it! No one is completely innocent of negativity, since we all complain from time to time without even being aware of it. As explained by Dr. Robin Kowalski professor of psychology at Clemson University, everyone complaints at some point!
- Vent-ers: These people are highly displeased and hate hearing solutions, no matter how constructive they can be.
- Sympathy Seekers: These people are looking for attention and often go to unhealthy lengths with their “I’ve got it worse than you do” attitude.
- Chronic Complainers: Ultimately, chronic complainers are the ones who complain all the time, eventually making things even worse and causing more worry and anxiety.
We are not saying that you should give up complaining completely, since bouts of negativity are normal and are meant to reset the system. However, make sure this doesn’t go to unhealthy lengths.
Negativity Rewires Your Brain:
According to Donald Hebb, a neuropsychologist, neurons that fire together, wire together. In other words, groups of neurons attach in the brain due to particular life experiences.
For example, each time we thing about something or feel a physical sensation, numerous neurons are stimulated together and work in synergy to create a neutral network. The brain learns to stimulate the same neurons with repetitive thinking.
Simply put, keeping the mind focused on victimization and anxiety makes you bring up the same thoughts for similar situations. Our thought patterns basically teach the brain to react positively or negatively to the presented situations.
Four tricks to avoid negativity:
- Be grateful: Even for the most trivial things.
- Catch yourself: Catch yourself in a complaint and congratulate yourself for being aware.
- Make a new groove: Create a new channel for positive feeling. The more you allow the brain to remember good things, the easier such king of thinking becomes.
- Practice wise effort: This refers to letting go of anything which is not helpful and accumulating anything that is good.